December Reflections – Day 5 The Best Book Of 2017

A Mind at home with itself

In the Foreword, Stephen Mitchell, Byron Katie’s husband and co-author writes

“A Mind at Home with Itself will let you see the world through the eyes of someone who has woken up to reality, the radiant moment, the state of grace in which there is no separation and the heart overflows with love.”

This is a life-changing book.

When everything you define yourself by is lost, the question “Who am I without ………” comes into sharp focus.

For me, it was “Who am I without my job, my health, my independence?”

For you, it might be “without my partner/ my child/my friends/my home.”

What I have come to know is that it is not the situation that causes pain, but my thoughts about it. Every thought that causes me pain has the word “should” or “shouldn’t” in it.

In this book, Katie says “The only important thing to know is this: if a thought hurts, question it.”

This is an ongoing practice for me, using Katie’s 4 questions to question thoughts that hurt.

1. Is it true?

2. Can I absolutely know that it’s true?

3.  How do I  react, what happens, when I  believe that thought? Who would I be without the thought?

4. Turn the thought around. Find at least three specific, genuine examples of how each turnaround is true for me in this situation.

(For more details on this  process, visit Katie’s site at

Without the thought that anything should be other than it is in this moment, I am left with what Katie calls the “don’t know” mind.

”The don’t-know mind is a container that’s always full. Everything flows into it, and there’s never a need to hold on to a drop for itself. It’s the innocent that watches the whole world come to it. Things enter with their best and worst behavior, their most shameful, their most glorious, their richest, their poorest. Everything is allowed. It is always vast enough to contain what flows into it. And in it everyone gets what they came for: a look, a glimpse, the gift of love.”


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